While writing a blog for Holdmine, this image really resonated and thought it would be relevant for Careering too. 

Each dot reflects one month of life, and is mapped for a long 90 year lifespan. That means three rows on this is nine years.

Nine years seems so little when viewed on a chart like this. Yet when you think of all the change that can happen in nine years, it’s incredible. It’s October 2021 now, can you remember where you were in October 2012?
 
Facebook and Apple photo memories can help jog us to recall, but unless there was a milestone event then, most of us will struggle to recall the exact details of life in October 2012.
 
Can you pinpoint what you were excited about? Who made you smile? What worries you had bouncing around? What you hoped to achieve? What you dreamed of? Maybe, but also maybe not.

​The first is very topical with it being Mental Health Awareness week – our worries seem so significant in the moment. They can be all consuming, thanks to our brains being certainty seeking, negatively biased machines. We try to predict ‘what’s next’, see the warnings and stay safe in the moment. That’s the key isn’t it? To be in the moment. There’s some amazing resources on how to manage worry, anxiety and how to stay present, an area we are not qualified to comment on other than to direct you to a good Google search and a tonne of encouragement to value yourself and your wellbeing, and put the effort in.
 
In addition, the point here is that it’s unlikely any of us in 2012 expected that in 2021 we’d be experience life here in Aotearoa where lockdown levels, bubbles and borders were part of the vocab. It has created a massive shift in our sense of ‘what’s possible’ and also, naturally increased our level of fear and uncertainty. Many things that lifted us up are not available right now. Right now is one dot within one of the dots on this image. It’s one moment, in one hour, in one day, within one of those dots. So much can change.

​Time heals. It really does. Whether the hurt is from a scathing performance review last year, a loss of a loved one, moving out of home and missing your beloved pet, or a breakup, the only thing that ‘heals’ is time. Not ‘heal’ return to how it was as if it never happened, it’s normal that hurts heal and take a new form, you’re not the same, you’ll live with what hurts and do things differently, hopefully for the better next time. Learn the lessons, take the photos, say the goodbyes, make the apologies, go home next weekend for doggo cuddles – whatever you need to do to embrace the version of you that now exists as a result of that situation, and trust you’re stronger each day.

​It’s okay to change your goals and direction. Imagine if you started off part way through the sixth row, say age 16, and announced you’re going to be an accountant, that leads to a gap year and a couple of years at Uni. And then when you’re 23, you realise you’re insanely talented and passionate about environmentally friendly waste water treatment and kick off a training plan to pioneer new technology in that space. Look how many dots still lay ahead for you. If you stay on the accounting path, those dots will be filled with different experiences than if you back yourself to go hard for something you love. Whether you chose to do both, neither or just one of these isn’t the point – the point is there a lot of dots to follow, a lot of moments where you get to decide how you fill them. Decisions about career seem permanent but they not. It’s okay to do a couple of years in one field and move to another, and another, or stay in one and love it. Just know, you can change your mind, change your direction and succeed if you choose to.

​It’s super important to reflect and celebrate how far you’ve come and what you have achieved. When we’re ticking off the goals and colouring in these dots, it’s natural to wonder what’s ahead. As Kiwi’s, we’re shockers at truly celebrating the wins. Not just the big first place, goal completed ones, but the almosts, the ‘learned a lot’, the ‘man I am happy’ moments. Taking stock and being grateful for all the good stuff helps you feel good now, and into the future. Those genuine moments of gratitude, and self appreciation add a lot of value to your life. Also, you gotta show up as your biggest cheerleader, only you know how you’ve had to grind to get where you are so high five yourself whenever you can! A Harvard health article says “In positive psychology research, gratitude is strongly and consistently associated with greater happiness. Gratitude helps people feel more positive emotions, relish good experiences, improve their health, deal with adversity, and build strong relationships.”

​We’ve looked back, we’ve been in the moment and celebrated, now we’re crystal ball gazing. If you’re to tick off three more rows, that’s nine more years. Imagine it’s nine years from now – October 2030. How are you investing your time? How does your day start? What leaves you fulfilled when you head to bed? What kind of person are you? Who are you investing your time and energy into? What is making you smile? Now … what are you doing about these things? Setting an intention is awesome, but taking positive action – that’s where the magic is. Get on with creating the character, the love, the life you want! It’ll be 2030 before we know it. 

Decided to do a throwback to the days of Uni assignments and compare and contrast some schools of thought on procrastination.  Here we delve into the science of procrastination and the positive view of it.  Weirdly landed in a pretty similar place when all is said and done, so here's  a short overview of each, and a wrap up at the end. Enjoy! 

​Heading into the deep, dark world of scientific research on procrastination, there were some gems to be found.
 
Eric Jaffe  “experts define it as the voluntary delay of some important task that we intend to do, despite knowing that we’ll suffer as a result”
 
Professor Tim Pychyl, from Carleton University, Ottawa, who has been studying procrastination for the past few decades, believes it is a problem with managing emotions rather than time.
 
"This study provides physiological evidence of the problem procrastinators have with emotional control," he says.
 
“In research settings, people who procrastinate have higher levels of stress and lower well-being.”
 
Joseph Ferrari, a professor of psychology at DePaul University says that while we almost all procrastinate, only about 20% of us are chronic procrastinators, and for those people it’s not about time-management. He says. “As I tell people, to tell the chronic procrastinator to just do it would be like saying to a clinically depressed person, cheer up.”
 
His work and much of the deep science crew, negate the views of the positive procrastination team below.
 
In 1997 Dianne Tice and her colleagues developed a scale, model and researched the habits of tertiary students and concluded:

​Laura Rabin is leading work on connecting our brain’s executive functioning with the emotional work done to date, and while some themes are appearing, there’s more to do. It seems the summary of this type of research is that there are few new areas of focus, which are less about grunt work, less focused on task design, and more about the mental and emotional states we’re in to help us get where we want to be.
 
It does remind me of the marshmallow experiment where delayed gratification (the ability to wait to obtain something that one wants), was tested. So how do we get ourselves primed for the work, get the work done, get some feel good vibes AND achieve things? Million dollar question here with no clear answer.
 
What we can do is firstly take responsibility for setting ourselves up for success and for owning our choices. Ultimately delaying is a choice, Starting is a choice. Choose what you want to do!

Piers Steel, a psychologist at the University of Calgary says that we will use a bad task to avoid a really bad task so we can play them off against each other to get through them, although we still need some grunt to do the one we really don’t want to do. Makes sense right – take on the lesser of the two evils?
 
John Perry calls this “Structured procrastination” and he says:
 
“At the top of your to-do list, put a couple of daunting, if not impossible, tasks that are vaguely important-sounding (but really aren’t) and seem to have deadlines (but really don’t). Then, farther down the list, include some doable tasks that really matter.”
 
Which sounds a lot like gaming yourself, or the equivalent of eat your vegetables so you can get dessert?

​What if you’re not a ‘to do’ list kind of person? There’s some work from the Procrastination Research Group at Carleton University which is spearheaded by Timothy Pychyl. He writes on Psychology Today’s site about findings from his colleague, Shamarukh Chowdhury’s research on a small sample of a few hundred students.
 
The data showed that people who are naturally conscientious (one of the big five personality traits, worth a Google to learn more on this too btw), and who normally use to do lists, they’re an effective tool for you. For those that lie more on the side of procrastinate than #GSD, it’s possible conscientiousness is also a little lower and you  likely aren’t native list makers, so to get the gears moving, creating the list as the first new habit can be helpful in getting through the things you’re putting off. Interestingly too there is a gender difference in her research, with females creating to-do list more so than males, but Pychyl reminds us that “there is no gender difference in conscientiousness” so all of us can learn to game our day and get writing those lists if we want to try some tactics to beat down procrastination.
 

​Back to Perry though, and important in 2021 as we work during mixed mode times - his research suggest that through more flexible work we’re now procrastinating a lot – 25% of work time, and for students, 1/3 of the time. And apparently men are more likely to procrastinate than women, especially young men. So is this the case where the ‘good girl’ messaging is helping us gain an edge? If all things were equal, then maybe.
 
Their data also shows that 95% of us do procrastinate. Makes me wonder that instead of structuring our tasks to game ourselves into doing the work, are we really giving ourselves enough creative or down time? I don’t know about you but the great ideas, the solutions I’ve been seeking, or the energy lift I need often come when I am baking lemon slice instead of financial modelling, or when I’m doing a 20 min Zumba class on Youtube. Those a-ha moments or flashes of brilliance rarely come when I force myself to be desk bound or belligerently pushing on and on and on. They come when I’m in flow, or when I’m allowing my brain to do it’s background computational stuff and finding solutions.
 
So there’s an argument for downtime. There’s also a massive argument for why the traditional industrial era eight hour work day is crap, but that’s not the soapbox I’m climbing on right now. The takeaway here is that perhaps ensuring enough ‘play’ time each day, is actually helpful, knowing when to take a break and putting a time on it might be good, and switch to a low energy task or a creative task can help.

​It’s also about locking in the good stuff and doing the things that shift the dial for you, the urgent and important things. If that means creating tricky to do lists, giving yourself a weekly reward for ‘eating the frog first’ each day, or doing only five minute mind breaks every hour (code for social scrolling) helps you create a way to complete what’s needed in a way that doesn’t suck the life outta you, then let’s go!
 
There’s a tonne of insight from the CA team that argue that procrastination isn’t about time management (although list making etc can help) but it’s more about emotional regulation which is detailed above. Basically, the formula is manage yourself to feel good and get cracking, as when you feel bad, you’re more likely to avoid the stuff that needs to be done and instead find ways to feel good.
 
Right so that’s the over simplified version of it as I want to wrap this up in case you’re using reading this as a procrastination tactic! Summation of it is that when we feel good, we’re connected to our goals and future, we feel we know the next step or two and we get cracking, we’re onto a winner. If you’re interested in learning more about this, head into the web vortex and search for emotion-regulation strategies, it’s fun!

One final point on procrastinating is that all these experts with the data, the tools, the tricks and the labels, still say the same basic thing for when you’re stuck in the loop ….  “just get started”. Take the first step. To quote the great Chinese Philosopher, Lao Tzu “A journey of a thousand miles must begin with a single step”. This is the most well known part of his quote, but the whole paragraph is really good, and relevant for this topic:

​Top up the good vibes and then get steppin’!

References:
https://www.psychologytoday.com/ca/blog/dont-delay/202002/do-do-lists-work
https://www.nytimes.com/2013/01/15/science/positive-procrastination-not-an-oxymoron.html
https://www.psychologytoday.com/ca/blog/dont-delay/202003/negative-emotions-today-predict-procrastination-tomorrow
https://www.bbc.com/news/health-45295392
https://www.procrastination.ca/
https://www.sciencedaily.com/releases/2018/08/180822090455.htm
https://www.psychologicalscience.org/observer/why-wait-the-science-behind-procrastination