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Words, Ideas, Stuff

Some ideas and thoughts, captured with the view to help you.

three short and sharp tools for goal setting

26/10/2021

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While we’re in the short week between Labour Day and the next weekend, here’s a short post on goal setting. This quote was saved in Melissa’s phone and stuck on her office wall about 11 years ago, and while walking Tirohanga Track this morning, it kept bouncing around her mind. It's prompted a few thoughts to flow on how to capture those grand plans!
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“In the absence of clearly-defined goals, we become strangely loyal to performing daily trivia until ultimately we become enslaved by it.” ― Robert A. Heinlein
​Trying to stay in ‘light’ mode while working remotely and lapping up the short week and sunny days, we thought we’d keep it short and sweet and share three quick tools for goal setting incase you’re thinking about things you’d love to see or do, or how you’d like to be at some stage in the future.
Future Mewww.futureme.org/ is also a hark back to a tool Melissa discovered when living in Sydney years ago, and it’s as powerful now as it was then. You can write a note now, to be delivered to future you, and then choose the date and time it will be delivered. Add in the details for the goal you’re aiming for and be sure to include some ‘atta girl’ vibes in there too! 
 
Google has their ‘One Simple Thing’ tool, and a back story for how it works and why:

Just get that clarity and write it down! Read here for how and why but trust us, there’s power in doing that one thing. Do it! 
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Are You (Subconsciously) Afraid of Success?

7/3/2018

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We hear a lot about a fear of failure, but oftentimes, we can also be scared of success. We may not be aware of it either, we're socially bombarded with messages that tell us being successful is amazing. It probably will be, but if it's a new goal, a new area, and requires stepping outside the comfort zone, that fear can fire up. Fear often has to do with worrying about uncertainty, feeling out of control, and wondering 'what will it be like when I've done x, y or z?'.

When you realize you can't answer those questions without doing the actions and starting the journey, and trusting that journey, even if you don’t fully understand what that is, it’s easier to start taking the action needed. You also need to remind yourself that you both deserve and need to be successful and happy.

There are typically three areas of success where that fear hides out so when you know about them, you can do something about them! These three areas are fully credited to 99U.  

1. Fear of Not Coping With Success  
If you experience doubts, remind yourself of all the extra resources success will bring you:
  • A boost to your confidence
  • A bigger, more powerful network
  • A healthier bank balance
  • A growing reputation that opens new doors
 
2. Fear of Selling Out  
Firstly, accept that you’ll never please everyone. Backbiting is part of the price of success.
Secondly, make sure you are comfortable with your choices. Make a list of all the things you would consider “selling out,” and which you’re not prepared to do. Then keep the list handy. As long as you don’t do the things on that list, you can look yourself in the mirror. Whatever anyone else says about you.

3. Fear of Becoming Someone Else
​Because we habitually put successful people on pedestals, the idea of becoming “one of them” can feel daunting. You start to worry that you’ll turn into someone else, a person your friends and family won’t recognize—and won’t like.

This fear has some foundation in reality. After all, if you were satisfied with the person you are now, why would you want to change? But it’s also founded on a false premise: that change is about leaving your old self behind and replacing it with a completely new one. Change is more complex than that. You are definitely more complex than that.
 
 Here's the old saying - feel the fear and do it anyway! DO IT! You know you want to :)

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POST MATCH ANALYSIS

12/2/2018

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Tony Robbins' team have written a great post titled:
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CEO LESSONS FROM SERENA WILLIAMS
​HOW TO APPROACH YOUR BUSINESS LIKE A HIGH-PERFORMANCE ATHLETE

The tips there apply to many more areas than just business. When ever you've pushed yourself to achieve a goal, and you're on the other side of the milestone/event or occasion, take the time to reflect, refine and celebrate. Here's the questions that TR suggests you ask yourself:

​Evaluate your successes and failures, and in reliving the game, mentally prepare for the next one.

• If you lost, how will you keep pushing your practices forward?
• If you won, what factors contributed to your success?
• What were the key decisions you made, for better or worse?
• How will you maintain your strengths and build on your weaknesses?
Full article here. 
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It's All Just Feedback

15/6/2017

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Not only do most people fear having to give feedback, often the thought of receiving feedback causes the same response.

It's not feedback itself that causes the fear, it's our interpretation of it, which is based on the ingrained stories we tell ourselves.

Even the term "constructive feedback" for most people triggers an expectation of negative comments due to the old favourite "constructive criticism". We've all focused on the criticism part, attached a negative experience to it, and now expect the words to flow along with an ego crushing blow.
All feedback should be constructive.  That is; delivered with the intent that it may aid the individual to gain insight, new perspective and assist their development.

A powerful way to view feedback is to see all feedback as just that - feedback. It's not good nor bad.

Even feedback with good intent, and from a credible and respected source is still just feedback.  It is up to each individual as to what happens next. Take it on board and make changes? Ignore it and do nothing? The best response is always to say "Thank you" and then take some time to reflect.
If the comments don't resonate with you, then a polite thank you is all that's required. If the feedback is not constructive, is negative or designed to be hurtful, don't take it personally, chalk it up to experience and say to yourself "it's all just feedback".

However if the comments delivered do resonate with you or it's from a source you respect, then the best response is to see it as a learning opportunity.

In these situations it is advisable to delve deeper, ask the person questions so as to truly understand their perspective. If you're not sure about how relevant the feedback is or if you want a second opinion then validate it, ask trusted people for their perspective also.

Here are some questions you may wish to use, select the ones most relevant for the situation:
  • Specifically what worked well?
  • What could have been improved?
  • How else do you suggest I might deliver/complete/achieve this?
  • What might the impact be if this was or wasn't altered in any way?
  • Who else do you suggest I speak with to get feedback on this?

Once you've got the feedback, the choice is yours as to what you do with it. Whether you take it on board or not is your call, because up till now, its still just feedback!
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You might wish that to be all it is, you may wish to develop this area, or celebrate the achievement and compliment. Remember that until you decide otherwise, it is all just feedback.
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